Now, that I have sobered up from laughing at Kanye West’s twitter beef and the subsequent Amber Rose meme’s, let’s have a discussion about butt shaming.
I understand why Amber Rose had to come for Kanye. When you bring someone’s child into your petty tweets over something you clearly misunderstood, you have to expect to get body slammed by any reasonable person. If Kanye has married his dream girl, why does he keep bringing up Amber Rose anyway? Seems to me that if he were truly over her and their relationship he would wish her well and keep it moving. Instead, he seems to find ways to insult her, unprovoked. But I digress.
Let’s get back to what many saw as the death blow to end Kanye’s rant and force him to delete his tweets. In response to Kanye’s disrespectful remarks about Amber’s and Whiz Khalifa’s child, Amber Rose tweeted:
And then the memes began. I even reposted the tiny, deflated Kanye on Amber Rose’s finger meme. But once I finished laughing, I had to question why was that the ultimate dis and why did we find it funny?
In the rap community, as well as the black community, men who are seen as effeminate or gay have often faced ridicule and even violence. Only recently have any black, male rappers come out as gay or bisexual. It’s still somewhat taboo in an industry that applauds machismo. Jhene Aiko can sing about eating the booty like groceries, but a man, a black man in particular, dare not express his interest, or enjoyment, in being stimulated anally.
But why? Anal play/butt play is nothing to be ashamed of, and can be quite pleasurable for men (and women), whether they are giving or receiving. And yet, it still makes some people anxious and can be used as a weapon to shame, discriminate against, and also to kill.
I have to admit that I have once engaged in this behavior myself. I was upset and felt disrespected and so I lashed out against an ex in much the same way Amber Rose did, although not on social media, it was still in a public format. I felt horrible afterwards and apologized for using against him what had taken place in the privacy of the intimate spaces of our relationship.
I don’t suspect there will be any apologies or forgiving moments between Amber Rose and Kanye West any time soon. And although watching celebs have breakdowns and beat downs on Twitter can be entertaining, we all need to be cognizant of how language (or tweets or memes) can be used to shame. And while it may or may not have any impact on the celebrity, it can make others feel targeted and create a dangerous atmosphere where people are unable to be and express who they are.
I understand why Amber Rose had to come for Kanye. When you bring someone’s child into your petty tweets over something you clearly misunderstood, you have to expect to get body slammed by any reasonable person. If Kanye has married his dream girl, why does he keep bringing up Amber Rose anyway? Seems to me that if he were truly over her and their relationship he would wish her well and keep it moving. Instead, he seems to find ways to insult her, unprovoked. But I digress.
Let’s get back to what many saw as the death blow to end Kanye’s rant and force him to delete his tweets. In response to Kanye’s disrespectful remarks about Amber’s and Whiz Khalifa’s child, Amber Rose tweeted:
Awww @kanyewest are u mad I'm not around to play in ur asshole anymore? #FingersInTheBootyAssBitch☝
— Amber Rose (@DaRealAmberRose) January 27, 2016Lol @kanyewest Now u wanna delete ur tweets cuz Muva has arrived? #TwitterFingers #UrGettingBodiedByAStripperNigga
— Amber Rose (@DaRealAmberRose) January 27, 2016And then the memes began. I even reposted the tiny, deflated Kanye on Amber Rose’s finger meme. But once I finished laughing, I had to question why was that the ultimate dis and why did we find it funny?
In the rap community, as well as the black community, men who are seen as effeminate or gay have often faced ridicule and even violence. Only recently have any black, male rappers come out as gay or bisexual. It’s still somewhat taboo in an industry that applauds machismo. Jhene Aiko can sing about eating the booty like groceries, but a man, a black man in particular, dare not express his interest, or enjoyment, in being stimulated anally.
But why? Anal play/butt play is nothing to be ashamed of, and can be quite pleasurable for men (and women), whether they are giving or receiving. And yet, it still makes some people anxious and can be used as a weapon to shame, discriminate against, and also to kill.
I have to admit that I have once engaged in this behavior myself. I was upset and felt disrespected and so I lashed out against an ex in much the same way Amber Rose did, although not on social media, it was still in a public format. I felt horrible afterwards and apologized for using against him what had taken place in the privacy of the intimate spaces of our relationship.
I don’t suspect there will be any apologies or forgiving moments between Amber Rose and Kanye West any time soon. And although watching celebs have breakdowns and beat downs on Twitter can be entertaining, we all need to be cognizant of how language (or tweets or memes) can be used to shame. And while it may or may not have any impact on the celebrity, it can make others feel targeted and create a dangerous atmosphere where people are unable to be and express who they are.
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